planning with purpose

I'm a planner. My days are totally planned out, and I know what I'm doing (sometimes tentatively) three months from now. So, Gretchen Rubin's Strategy of Scheduling spoke right to my heart.

Scheduling makes us far more likely to convert an activity into a habit.
— Better Than Before

I schedule my morning warm up and evening wind down, and I schedule my work day build up and close out, and my life is much more successful when I stick to those schedules.

I also sit down on Saturday and Sunday to plan out my week. Most weeks, every minute is planned. For some of you, that idea feels overwhelming, but my minutes are filled with time with friends, taking out the dishes on a break, watching a show with my hubs, and other ways I want to spend my time.

My sister Alyssa lives very differently. She schedules the day as it comes. She has a constant schedule of work during the day, but her evenings and weekends make me sweat because she never knows what might be going on. 

We often complain we never really see each other although we live together. So, we try to plan something. I won't put it on my calendar until she has fully confirmed, and she's not ready to fully confirm until a couple hours beforehand. 

So, we still don't really see each other.


She and I took Myers-Briggs personality tests a while back, and I am an ESTJ, which means I help my neighbors, uphold the law, and try to make sure that everyone participates in the communities and organizations they hold so dear. Are you surprised I am also an Upholder?

Alyssa is an ENFP, which means she is fiercely independent, and, much more than stability and security, she craves creativity and freedom. In case you wondered, she's a Rebel.

I ran across the definition of hell for each Myers-Briggs personality type:

Mine: An incredibly impractical person is put in charge of all of your major life decisions. You have to do whatever they say and are powerless to argue or reason with them.

Alyssa's: Every minute of the rest of your life has been scheduled for you – and it’s a long series of arbitrary, solitary tasks.

Total opposites. We even tried to plan one another's week to see how it would work out, but she couldn't even give me a plan for the next day. I decided I have too many things needing to happen to allow her to plan my life. 

For some of us, it takes discipline to take pleasure.
— Better Than Before

When I'm not rocking my schedule, by the end of the day, I feel so frustrated I didn't do all the things I wanted to do. I wasn't disciplined enough to wake up and journal, or I didn't schedule my neck exercise, or the dishes are still in the sink, so taking time to read or watch a show is hard because I have things I didn't do looming in my mind.

I so so so believe in the strategy of scheduling to form habits and organize your life in a way that will allow you to balance every task you want to do and every relationship you want to have.

What do you schedule in your life? Or what do you wish you did a better job of scheduling?


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